Being a Jackass 101

A few months ago, I was sitting at our dining room table and having a conversation with my youngest stepdaughter. We were talking about how some people are nice and some aren’t and life in general. At one point, she mentioned how people constantly give her advice (being 13, she hated this!) and I said, “Look, all of life advice can be boiled down into 2 points. #1) Don’t be a jackass and #2) Don’t marry a jackass. If you’re a jackass, you’re a rude and mean person who contributes nothing good to the world. If you marry a jackass, you become a jackass, and you make little jackass babies. That’s not good for the world either.” She chewed whatever she was eating (probably something with buffalo sauce), swallowed, and said, ” That’s actually really good advice.”Coming from a 13 year old, this is probably a compliment.

What got me thinking about this is seeing all the political ads lately. I’m tired of it. I don’t love politics at all but damn, you can’t go anywhere without seeing one. And what are they doing? Tearing the opposing candidate down. Telling us how horrible that person is. Posting mean stuff on social media about other people. In short, they’re being jackasses. These are supposed to be role models. And they’re being jackasses. And it’s both parties. And it’s at all levels. From small town all the way up to the POTUS. Love him or hate him, I think we can all agree his tweets aren’t exactly uplifting. You can argue with me all you want, but tearing another person down doesn’t build you up. Calling someone fat doesn’t make you skinny. (10 points for you if you got that reference). It makes no sense. I’ve seen 60 year old women posting crap on Facebook about how some other person made them mad and I know damn well they didn’t have all of the facts. That seems like something a hormonal teen would do. You have a problem with someone? Go talk to them, stop airing in on Facebook.

So why am I posting about this? Because I’ve been getting a little hate recently.  Oh yeah. I got some for moving away from my hometown, I got some for starting a blog, and  lately I got some for becoming a Pruvit distributor. Believe me, I’ve heard the comments. ” I thought you were all about no magic pills, why are you promoting ketones?” Well, I did a Whole 30 ( and I’ll do another one because it was beneficial to me), I’ve counted the points and I’ve counted calories.  I started ketones because I’m a firm believer in trying new things, it helped me, and I wanted to help others too. I started a blog because I love to write and have ALWAYS wanted to be a writer. I moved to Arkansas because my husband was offered a great opportunity and we decided TOGETHER that a change was a good idea. We didn’t move because we wanted to “get away from his kids” as someone suggested. On the contrary, part of the reason we moved is to show them a world outside the small town we/they grew up in. They’re excited about visiting us in December. Actually, they’re probably more excited about the plane ride!

I got off subject a little. I just don’t understand as a society why we have to put people down when they view something differently than we do. Isn’t variety the spice of life? Is it fear that another view point may be right or more beneficial? My best friends and I all have vastly different political standings. And guess what? None of us care. We barely talk about it. Not because we’re afraid of a discussion (we ALL love to argue our points! These girls aren’t afraid to disagree!)  but because we’re too busy having fun or discussing other important things- like whether knee high boots or booties are the best trend, or why our husbands can’t see the things they leave laying around the house. Or whether Urban Decay or Smashbox makes the best eyeshadows. You know, life’s biggest questions.

And look, I KNOW I can be a jackass. I’ve become more aware of it as I get older. I’ve also learned that you don’t have to agree with someone 100% of the time. I’ve learned to listen to other people’s points of view and try to understand where they are coming from. And because of that, I’ve become more open minded and appreciate more things than I used to. I know I’m stubborn and sometimes I’m what my mother would refer to as a handful. And yes, I’ve been called a bitch. But guess what? According to Tina Fey, bitches get stuff done.


What I’m trying to say is, don’t be a jackass. Be kind. Listen to others without judging until you’ve heard all the facts. Keep in mind everyone is not like you or has the same values as you. If you have to, , turn the channel when a political ad airs. Go watch Hallmark or something. All of their stories end with Christmas being saved, but guess what? Saving Christmas is a hell of a lot nicer than being a jackass…..


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